I did not have any intentions of publishing a 2nd "end of the year" post but recent life events pushed me to do it.

First thing's first: rejection doesn't feel great. It can be discouraging. It can feel demeaning. It can feel like the worst thing in the world...but it's not. It may temporarily feel like it but your life doesn't end just because you may be faced with rejection. I can't personally tell you how long it takes for one to see the good in rejection but I can say that when one door closes, another one opens. This is where I'm learning to exercise patience and faith. This is where I step back and say, "okay God. Thank you for keeping me away from this situation. I may not understand why now but I know that you'll reveal all in due time."


 

I haven't always been able to acknowledge that maybe rejection isn't meant to make you question yourself. I will be the first to say that I've questioned my validity as a blogger, future employee and as a woman all because I've been rejected multiple times just this year alone.


Things that I thought that I was confident about were put to the test and each were stamped with the word "reject" each time I found myself focusing on the negative outcome of my life. It has been imperative for me to consciously remind myself of the things that I gained instead of lost this year. So maybe my job applications were rejected at the beginning of the year. They were part-time jobs with barely enough hours to survive off of during the week and now I'm blessed to have a full-time job. So maybe some of my proposals for features on Nai's Visions went unanswered. I was able to connect with and feature genuinely kind not to mention creative and innovative people on the blog. So maybe I'm going into the new year single and realizing that dating right now isn't probably the best idea. I'm STILL surrounded by people who love and support me. Want to know something else? Lucky me learned how to face my fears, deal with the heart of loneliness and actively embrace who I am without feeling the need to apologize about it. I'd say that standing on my own two feet and recognizing my own greatness without the aid of validation from others is a pretty damn amazing feat.


Sure, rejection can seem like it's lasting but it doesn't have to be that way. If I recall correctly, there is a saying that goes, "rejection is form of protection." Not only is that true but I believe that rejection can be one of life's greatest teachers and it can redirect you in the direction that you need to be headed in. Some things will always be out of your control but one door closing doesn't mean that others won't open. In fact, your life may pick up as a result of that door closing (I can attest to this). You just have to trust that the universe is not out to punish you indefinitely and make your life miserable. Just take things one day at a time and before you know it, you won't even question the people or situations that rejected you because everything will make sense.


In case that you need a reminder before 2015 blesses us with her infinite possibilities and magnificence: you ARE beautiful. You ARE brilliant. You ARE talented. You ARE blessed. You ARE loved. You ARE supported. You ARE worth it. Your life has been given to you for a purpose. Believe that everything you are going through at this present time is preparing you for the things that you are created to do.