Upon first coming across the mind-opening blog of today's feature, I was taken aback..and by this, I mean that the biggest grin was plastered across my face. Somehow I was fortunate enough to come across a blog that didn't feel as if it were confined to strict guidelines. Combining historical, sexual and overall entertaining topics with vernacular that makes you feel as if you are talking to one of your best friends, Lexi of XtraXtraLeX unabashedly shares the inner workings of her mind with the world. "I am a blogger, historian and sex enthusiast who aims to entertain as well as inform others...a walking contradiction", the sweet-voiced blogger proclaimed when asked to describe who she is in a nutshell.



 
One of the many great things about Lexi is that she is a staunch feminist who has no problem expressing her disdain with patriarchy. "Reliance on patriarchy is hurting society" the blogger states. However, she admits that there was a point in life where she did not identify as a feminist. Prior to being as blatant about feminism and sexual liberation as she currently is, Lexi dished that some of her previous posts bashed women instead of celebrating their right to make their own decisions [note: she has LONG since deleted those posts]. It took a women's studies course during her freshman year of college to help shape the mindset that she has today. "I didn't want to call myself a feminist at the time but I started to realize that how I was beginning to feel mirrored one", she says.


In one of her riveting posts, "Why It's Basically Impossible To Be Pro-Black and Anti-Feminism", she ticks off a number of reasons why being pro-black and feminism intersect. Sure, one may argue that women and men were not created to be equals but Lexi scoffs at that idea. "Women being lower stems from religion. It has impacted our social and family norms", she states. Lexi also added that since black men are seen as the pinnacle of the black community and the leader of the black family, the emphasis on them are heightened much more so than the black women who have also experienced police brutality. "If the black man is dying then society wants to know how black families will survive without him. In black women's case, according to society there is a totem pole: white man, white woman, black man and then the black woman".


As forward thinking and blunt as the content of her blog is, it didn't get that way overnight. When Lexi first began blogging, she shared that she didn't have a clear direction for her blog although she knew that she wanted to put her thoughts out there. Over a period of time, Lexi began to see the impact that said thoughts had on people and realized that people were actually tuning in to see what she had to say. Her first taste of blogging began while she was a junior in high school but it was for commercial purposes only. She went on to create another blog that she "wasn't serious about" that led to the eventual creation of  the groundbreaking blog that she proudly has today. As with anything that anyone does in life, Lexi has faced her fair share of naysayers and people who just flat out disagree with her opinions. After battling with depression in high school, recovering from sexual assault and dealing with the harsh criticism of her peers, Lexi reached the point where she "stopped caring what others thought about her". 

Despite what Lexi has experienced, she does not turn her nose up at said experiences. The intelligent, brazen and open-minded blogger feels that they helped attribute to the woman that she is today. Moving forward, Lexi's goals are to continue to entertain as well as inform others, eventually reaching a point where she can become a TV Personality. Speaking of which, she is currently gearing up for what is sure to be an eventful summer. Moving to New York very soon (as in tomorrow), Lexi  plans on sharing weekly blogs every Monday entitled "Lexi Does New York" as well as documenting her 'food porn' with "Lexi Eats New York". If you thought that her adventures in New York are limited to that, think again. She also wants to introduce readers to "Strange Sex in the City" where she will be interviewing those who have fetishes and/or are into BDSM (bondage & discipline, dominance & submission and sadism & masochism). XtraXtraLeX is sure to bring steamy and exciting heat this summer, no pun intended.

After being granted the opportunity to speak with Lexi, there is no doubt in my mind that I stumbled across another gem. Her confidence as well as assurance shone through with each word spoken and I dare say that I found myself being inspired after our conversation was over. Being open + firm about your desires, thoughts and goals in this society can often be shunned by others who are used to a "traditional" sense of things. But as I've mentioned countless times before, women are saying to hell with being traditional and carving out a life that works for them. Lexi is right at the forefront of that and she is proudly standing tall in her personal choices. How can you not admire that?

Note: Lexi is working on a book that takes an in-depth look at black sexuality. Topics  such as  looking at sex historically, black men & sexual assault and the importance of gender roles in the black community will be covered. I have no doubt in my mind that this will be a must read! Please stay tuned for more updates by visiting XtraXtraLex as well as Lexi's other social media handles to get your daily dose of intriguing content!


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There was a time when many people thought blacks and other minorities were so physically, mentally, and emotionally different from whites that it predisposed them to destitution, crime, and irrationality... justifying racist laws and attitudes towards them - See more at: http://www.xtraxtralex.com/free-speech/why-its-basically-impossible-to-be-pro-black-and-anti-feminism#sthash.mkvHax01.dpuf
There was a time when many people thought blacks and other minorities were so physically, mentally, and emotionally different from whites that it predisposed them to destitution, crime, and irrationality... justifying racist laws and attitudes towards them - See more at: http://www.xtraxtralex.com/free-speech/why-its-basically-impossible-to-be-pro-black-and-anti-feminism#sthash.mkvHax01.dpuf

There was a time when many people thought blacks and other minorities were so physically, mentally, and emotionally different from whites that it predisposed them to destitution, crime, and irrationality... justifying racist laws and attitudes towards them - See more at: http://www.xtraxtralex.com/free-speech/why-its-basically-impossible-to-be-pro-black-and-anti-feminism#sthash.mkvHax01.dpuf